Judge actions, not people

Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illuminates it. Martin Luther King, Jr. Strength to Love (1963).We need to judge actions, not people. We need to see that every child of God has moments of behavior that does not define who they are. We can continue to be Loving of the person while saying that what they do is wrong. This is, however, not the same as “love the sinner, hate the sin.” This is, instead, a way of approaching from a Place of Love to stop actions we find objectionable due to the effect on others without demonizing the person. We have just had MLK day to remind us of the man who embodied this approach to love.

Jennifer Rubin says it well:

Rather than a generic label for Trump, Americans require blunt, uncompromising language to describe what he does. He lies. He violates (as of noon Friday) the Constitution. He enables an adversary of America. His crude insults disgrace the office to which he has been elected. He defiles the presidency when he tells us that a black lawmaker’s district is “falling apart” and “crime infested,” as if African Americans represent only dystopian wastelands.

Now we can talk about changing behavior without getting into demeaning a fellow human being. We try to understand what motivates a person without dismissing their inherent dignity. We can stand up for others without putting down anyone.